How siblings may feel

It is common for siblings to have:

• Guilt that the sickness is somehow their fault.
• Jealousy of a sick sibling’s attention or gifts.
• Anger or acting out at friends, siblings or others.
• Worry that they may catch the illness or get sick.
• Loneliness or feeling left out of the hospital experience and family routines.
• Sadness and avoidance of some of their normal activities.

How you can help

• Explain what is happening in terms siblings can understand.
• Clarify that they did not cause the illness or condition.
• Encourage siblings to visit the hospital.
• Talk with our child life specialists about how to prepare for a sibling visit.
• Ask siblings about any concerns or questions they may have.
• Give your children ways to express themselves, such as drawing, writing or playing.
• Spend time with siblings, even for a short time.
  • Call them from the hospital
  • Do their bedtime ritual over the phone or a video connection.
  • Attend their games or other events.
• Identify a trusted adult your child can talk to.
• Encourage siblings to go to school and maintain normal routines.

Learn more

• Siblings of Children with Chronic Illnesses or Disabilities, American Academy of Pediatrics