Parent group training success story
During the second session of our CPS Parent Group the participants were introduced to the Thinking Skills Inventory and how lagging skills can impact the ability to successfully navigate day to day expectations and often result in challenging behaviors. The participants were asked to take a minute to look at the list of skills and to think about a specific incident with their child that recently led to a challenging behavior. The facilitator then asked if there were any skills on that list that" jumped out" at them, that their child may be lagging.
I could see that one parent was reviewing the sheet and tears were forming in her eyes. She raised her hand and shared that she was not sure how to respond right now and that she just felt like crying. She went on to explain to the group that she has never seen in writing such an accurate description of what she deals with on a daily basis with her daughter. She went on to share that her daughter struggles with doing things in a logical order, sticking with a task, tracking time and staying focused (all of which are skills under the Attention and Working Memory Pathway of the Thinking Skills Inventory) and that situations like doing her homework and chores (which require her to use those exact skills that she is lagging in) are some of the hardest situations in the home and often lead to extended arguments, crying and tantrums.
The group discussed how difficult it is for parents to show up day after day to deal with the same problems and have little to no success. Hearing that lagging skills are one the major contributors to challenging behaviors helped to remove some of the shame and guilt that these parents carry with them on a daily basis. This specific mother seemed to be reinvigorated by this experience as she looked at her daughter through the CPS lens for the first time.
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